Divorce has a larger affect on people than you probably think. I myself come from a family with divorced parents and I know the affects it can have. When someone decides to get a divorce just because they couldn't stand to be with their spouse anymore is not the smartest decision they could have made. First if this couple has children they will still have to see each other unless there are special circumstances. This means they still don't get to leave this person you thought they never would have to see again. They are stuck with them until the children are fully out of the picture. This could mean forever.
Divorce really hurts the children and friends of the couple. These people will suffer the most. The children are forced to live two lives normally. This means they have to lie to make sure each parent is happy. The friends are forced to choose who they want to stay friends with. This isn't fair. No one should have to make these kind of decisions because a couple couldn't do what they promised to do in the first place. People try to make divorce seem like it's not a big deal, but I know it causes more problems than it fixes.

The best thing a parent can do is love their children. They need to know how to correctly meet their needs to do this successfully. Every one needs to have contact with people. We tend to go into a depression when we don't get enough contact. This could be physical, verbal, or eye contact. It is essential to make sure children are receiving enough contact when they're growing. If they don't they could grow into problems or even die. Knowing how essential this is to the growth and development of children made me think back to my own family. My father doesn't really hug a lot. He does if someone else initiates it, but other than that he really doesn't. My younger sister had moved in with my mom for awhile. Even though my mom doesn't treat my sister right, my sister still wanted to live with her. I think this could be because my mom met those contact needs for my sister. Another need would be the need for power. This is what brought my sister back to my dad's house. My mom wouldn't give my sister any power, so she left to show that she did have power. There will be consequences to all of her actions of course. They will come naturally and she will have the chance to learn from them.
Sometimes people act out and we think it's because they're just bad kids. I don't think that's true. These children who act out are most likely missing something in their life. They might hit their parent because they crave they contact they can get from being hit back. This of course isn't healthy. Parents need to realize that if their kids are acting out that it might be the parents fault. None of us are perfect. Everyone has needs that need to be met in order for them to be healthy.

Finances are a big part of how you live. When I thin about finances I think of budgeting. This is one things that can help keep your finances in check. When talking about the family and finances there needs to be a different way to approach the situation. The husband should be bringing in the money and the wife should be able to help in different ways. The role of the mother is something I wanted to talk about. The mother should be the care taker. She should be teaching her children and caring for them. Her role is one of the most important. Without a mother in the home to teach children the family will fall apart. I know this because it has happened to me. My mom wasn't home very often and my siblings and I were forced to learn certain skills on our own when we were with her. The mother is the glue that can hold the family together. Without the mother the family will eventually fall apart. Even if the mother doesn't work outside of the home it's good for her to get an education so she can be better prepared to teach her children.
If there is an able bodies husband in the house he should be working to take care of his family financially. He has that obligation. The Lord will reward this family and help them through tough situations. God will not command us to do something we cannot. It is also good for a father to spend one-on-one time with his children and his wife. Just because he works doesn't mean he can't be apart of the family. The family needs both parents  and God to make it function correctly.

In  every relationship we have great power and influence over people even if we don't think we don't. People can easily influence others by making things difficult, withholding things from them, offering something, insulting their character, and making a request or demand. We do these things every day. If we are doing these for the right reason we can make a good change. Influencing people can also have negative affects. People can take what you are doing and interpret it wrong. They might think you don't like them anymore or you don't support them. This could be detrimental to relationships. Not having the support of your partner will break the trust that is within the relationship. When you do try to influence things just remember to communicate in a way they understand you want the best. This could keep them from misinterpreting things. Every relationship needs to how influence though. Without the influence things couldn't really move forward, but there can't be just one person who influences things all the time. The power in the relationship needs be shared. This can help things to move forward and it can help you better understand your partner.

When thinking about stress we think about all the negatives behind it. Stress doesn't need to be seen as a negative though. We need stress in order to grow stronger. Without stress on our bodies we literally couldn't grow. Gravity is a simply example of stress that we deal with on a daily basis. Emotional stress is what can start to cause people problems though. When we are stressed we tend to forget about the world and everything around us. We don't care about anyone else. This isn't good. Learning how to cope with things in a better way is central to how we live our lives. If we can learn how to deal with hard situations and see them as blessings we can come out of them a better person. Sometimes we are faced with situations that we feel we can't get through. I have seen thing in my life with my sister. She doesn't cope with things in a healthy way, so she eventually loses herself and everything she was. This loss of identity can cause people to do things they normally wouldn't. I know that the way we deal with situations will have a great effect on the way we live our lives. The decisions we make are all determined by the way we see the world around us. Perception is everything. If we can just change the way we look at the world and see it as a blessing, we will be able to live our lives to the fullest.