Marriage can be a scary thing if not done the right way. There should be steps taken before marriage. These steps should be dating, courtship, engagement, and marriage. Each of these should be taken as steps. This means they should be direct and understandable. If people slide through these steps the relationship becomes unclear. Another thing married couples struggling with would be happiness in their marriage. After a mother gives birth to her first child the marriage might go downhill. This could be because the father feels left out, they didn't communicate beforehand, or they don't show each other enough appreciation. It is hard to feel loved if you don't feel appreciated. Mothers should include the father in everything. This could help the relationship so much. Just including your partner in your life and on this journey will make them feel appreciated and useful. When moving from marriage to having your first child don't forget to include your spouse in the whole process.